Episode 02-04

Episode 02-04: Aromantic and Polyamorous

Released: August 26, 2020

This week we’re talking to Monogamish Pod superfan Vanilla Rose (Hey Vee!) about her journey in non-monogamy and about aromanticism.
We also briefly cover Somerville, Mass. legally recognising non-monogamous relationships because we realise we did not talk about it at all before.

Wanna know more about our guest?

Vanilla Rose/Vee (she/her)

Vee is a black heterosexual woman with pansexual leanings. She is a Christ follower on the aromantic spectrum. She has been on her journey to self-discovery in non-monogamy and BDSM/Kink/Leather. Vee considers herself Solo Polyamorous with Relationship Anarchy leanings.

Find Vee on Facebook Messenger (not friend requests!) and Twitter

HERE is a post about Somerville and the amazing thing they did. Really can’t believe we did not discuss this on the show before but honestly, there has been SO MANY THINGS going on. Whew. Happy to have slid it in to this episode though because yay joy.

Let’s define some terms and get through FAQ before we dive into the interview portion eh?
Please note that this conversation was recorded back in June and is in it’s natural flow so we hop, skip & jump all over the place.

Aromantic: a person who has no little to no interest in or desire for romantic relationships
Is aromantic and asexual the same thing?: Nope! You can be both aromantic and asexual but they do not mean the same thing. Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction, and asexual people experience little to no sexual attraction.
Where can I find information about aromanticism?: Lucky for you guys there is this handy dandy website that has information there. https://www.aromanticism.org/
We also include some diagrams with definitions and relevant ideas to the conversation throughout the show notes.

Leh we go!

“I am not anti-romanticism. I’m i’m not anti-marriage and i’m not anti-monogamy. I am very pro whatever is authentic to you”

Vanilla Rose

The Different Types of Love – Poly means many right? There are many ways to love.

“Get out my pussy, I can do what I want.”


“The thing that I’ve really enjoyed the most about non-monogamy is the pushing of open, honest communication…[monogamy] they just don’t allow for you to be openly and honestly communicating with the person that you’re supposed to be the most intimate with…In unhealthy relationship cultures, you don’t have a mind. You only have one mind, that’s why the two become one.”

Vanilla Rose

“We do not get to impose what identity we want on people and then get to say we’re accepting and open minded.”

Vanilla Rose

That’s all she wrote!

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