Episode 02-05: Asexuality and Polyamory
This week we have yet another interview in which we hear from Intimacy about their journey in polyamory, being Two-Spirit and about their asexuality.
CW: We do discuss sexual assault in this episode and we will put the time stamps below for that when it appears in the episode.
Wanna know more about our guest?
Intimacy ConAmore (they/them)
Intimacy is a multiracial Two-Spirit Native American Black person who is polyamorous, kinky and pansexual.
They are a sex surrogate who is also a mother to two young black men.
They grew up with polyamorous swinger grandparents and are a 30+ year veteran in polyamory.
They host local Dallas/Ft. Worth polyam events since 2014 to advocate, educate and support polyamorous communities. They have also presented at multiple conferences where they speak on polyamory and supporting all polyamorous communities with their personal experience, knowledge and wisdom.
Before we dive in to this conversation that was recorded in July, here are some definitions for some terms we use in this episode:
Two-Spirit: “Two-spirit” refers to a person who identifies as having both a masculine and a feminine spirit, and is used by some Indigenous people to describe their sexual, gender and/or spiritual identity.
Asexual: Someone who does not experience sexual attraction or an intrinsic desire to have sexual relationships (or the adjective describing a person as such). You can find more information on Asexuality here.
Demisexual: Someone who can only experience sexual attraction or desire after an emotional bond has been formed (or the adjective describing a person as such). This is different from the choice to abstain from sex until certain criteria are met.
Megasexual: Megasexuals are characterized as individuals who lack emotional connection toward any person or persons unless they first form a strong sexual connection with someone. Pretty much it’s the opposite of demisexual. Link to article about megasexuality
Sex Surrogate: It’s designed to help the client become more comfortable with intimacy, sensuality, sex and sexuality, and their body. are practitioners trained in addressing issues of intimacy and sexuality.
Now that we’ve got all of that done, let’s dive in to the episode.